Ask Coach Robyn

Join me in welcoming Robyn Povich, Certified Life and Relationship Coach, who will be writing a monthly post for us! I recently had the pleasure of meeting Robyn after she contacted me about ways in which she might help Our Daily Bread clients. After we talked on the phone and met, Robyn shared with me more about what she does and her methods as a Certified Life and Relationship Coach.  In her own words, Robyn's passion:

 is to support others in exploring and finding their most authentic and fulfilled self, and ultimately in living a life rich in integrity and purpose! She believes that each of us has the answers within just waiting to be unleashed.  As a coach, facilitator, mentor and yogi, her intention is to create the space for people to find those answers without the pressure of doing it “right” according to someone else’s script.  Her clients describe her as a “truth teller” who is gentle with the right amount of tough; courageous and compassionate; and a teacher who walks her walk.

As we got to talking, we thought adapting her "Ask Coach Robyn" column she writes for her own clients, would also prove to be worthwhile for all of us. So, each month Robyn will answer readers’ questions or offer words of inspiration regarding various life issues (personal, family, relationship, etc).

How This Works:

• Robyn reviews all questions submitted and chooses for publication those questions that are likely to be of interest to many readers.
• To submit a question for consideration, please email Robyn@RobynPovich.com include your name, location and email address so Robyn can get back in touch with you.  Your question may remain anonymous if posted on Project BRIDGE Blog.
• Selected questions and responses will be published on Project BRIDGE Blog.  Please note that Robyn may make minor edits to your question for clarity, spelling, or grammar.

Below is a question posed by one of Robyn's clients and her response:

Dear Coach Robyn,

I am a giver. I always say yes to my husband, family members, and friends. I feel like there is no time for me and I am starting to resent this because I don’t get much back. I feel stuck and empty.  
How do I get out of this mess of expectation from them and change the way I interact?    ~ J. S., Manassas, VA

Dear Jane,

What do you fear would happen if you said no? Do you say yes to people because you don’t want to let them down or perhaps you worry that they’ll be mad at you?

Take a small step towards saying no to one thing that you usually say yes to - today.  Just notice the reaction from your friend or family member. You may find that they are equally capable of tending to their needs or finding someone else to help.  When you say yes to others, make sure you’re not saying no to yourself.

We teach people how to be with us. If you’ve taught people that when they ask you for something you’ll always say yes, even when it’s inconvenient for you, then it will take time to un-teach that.  Be gentle with yourself and your friends and family as you break this “yes” habit.  It’s takes time to bring in a new habit into our lives.  Give yourself the gift of staying in your integrity.


Here is a quote for you to consider:

"A yes to you is a yes to me.  A no to you is a yes to me.” 

In peace and love,

Robyn


Robyn S. Povich
Mindfulness Coaching for Life!
www.MindfulnessCoachingForLife.com
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If we are not fully ourselves, truly in the present moment, we miss everything. - Thich Nhat Hanh